Roaches in the Kitchen

Self-sabotage can come in a huge variety of disguises.  It will affect your life with frustration, boredom, indifference, anger, resignation, or persistent justification for an action that looks like self-betrayal or martyrdom.

 

The gremlin or inner critic is a voice that is there to keep you from taking unsafe risks at times where risks are required, required for the sake of change.  It appears as guilt, rules, judgment, and beliefs.  It can appear in the form of another person…a parent, a spouse, a child even…..

It tells you things like “you need to be at home, you need to be more realistic, you’re too old,you don't have enough money,  you don't have enough time, what’s the point, your not smart enough…..it’s not important enough…..blah, blah, nag, nag.....

It hangs out in the backyard like a whisper but speaks up loud when lobbying for its preferred course of action. 

BE warned that whenever you step up and rise to a challenge, take risk or make changes in your life - your inner critic will awaken.  It is like roaches in a kitchen that wake up when the lights come on.

 

-excerpt from Engineering Your Future (Session 1)

For days, I have been stressed, cranky, doubting myself about this seminar - would anyone take it?  Would they like it? Would they find value in it?  Everybody battles that inner critic...it challenges on change and pushing past into greatness.  I am not exempt from it even though I have learned so much about self-sabotage and limiting beliefs.  I can see another person's a mile away and give them tools to beat it, stomp it, put in the back of a closet.  My own - it is still around.  Last night, as the course was about to start IT started chirping....

"You are crazy  - this is such a silly course...."

"You could be relaxing and yet here you are 'finding purpose in your life' and working hard"

"You don't have to work so why not just LOVE that "

I pushed past with a self-pep talk and locked those thoughts in box....a glass of red wine helped....then the course began.....7 awesome women on a journey.  The nature of a lecture type course is very little feedback and although I left on a complete HIGH and thoughts of job well done...that little voice nagged at me "yeah, but you don't know what the others think....."

This morning I woke up to comments in my inbox......

"I wanted to let you know that I thought you did a fantastic job!  Your script was smooth and easy to follow, I loved when you added tid-bits about yourself, it made the information easier to relate to and understand.....I love the fact that you identified your present weaknesses/insecurities.  I don't think I 've ever heard a life coach/motivational speaker do that and lets face it, no matter how successful and famous you are there are always insecurities.  Your talk on values was wonderful, it actually made me see that there is so much more to me than "health and wellness".  And I've come away with something I want to work on!!  All in one session!"

 

"You are a rockstar! I am so pumped for this seminar. Your voice was encouraging, driven, real. The call flowed so nice.......I can't advocate enough about the Future Self exercise. Everyone should do it. Everyone needs to see who they are."

 

I loved them thank you!  The irony is that because I do not know from EVERYONE their feedback that little voice is still squaking  just a bit taking away from my high.  Today I am going to run it over with my super cool mini-van and see how it likes them apples:)

 

Where  does your own peanut gallery show up?  What tools do you use to manage it?

 

Over and out - Kathryn (almost totally on a high) Gompf

Comments

[Brandi]

I knew you'd be amazing. You always are! Way to go Coach!

[Joanna]

OOOHHH too bad I missed that.
This is from my post yesterday, " "Oh I can never run a big business, I don't have an MBA, I'm not smart enough, I don't have the resources...blah blah blah." Poison I say, poison!

The secret is: Be Sure. Be sure about your results and act as though they were undeniably certain. Shun that inner voice, silence it. Focus on results, live it and have it clear in mind. Failure is not an option. Just press on, the next step is waiting for you, no excuses."

THAT IS HOW I ROLL!

[Mol Cats]

Kath, I never doubted that people would find exactly what they are searching for in you and your always positive outlook. Awesome job, girl!